Impermanence and Joy
by Dennie Sueirro, RScP
“But there’s nothing wrong with impermanence, suffering, and egolessness; they can be celebrated. Our fundamental situation is joyful.” ~ When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron, Pg. 59
In the New Thought Movement, there is a trend towards restricting one’s experience to only the positive — the affirmative thought. While I agree that there is something to be grateful for in every single situation, I’ve seen how positive thinking can be destructive as well when we won’t admit to feeling down or angry for fear that our peers will negatively judge our spiritual fitness. Sadness, fear, depression, anxiety, anger, rage are all part of our multifaceted human experience, along with happiness, excitement, and contentment. To me, the key is to not get stuck in any one emotion, to remember that we are, at our center, Joy and Love, and to allow the feelings to exist. Rather than trying to instantly think them away with a positive spin or blame or shame others or ourselves, or trying to hold on to that good feeling forever, we can sit and feel them. We can then let them go and become centered again in the truth of who we are at our center, and move forward.
In the book, “When Things Fall Apart,” Pema Chodron suggests that we stop and really get to know ourselves in any given situation. She recommends that we not react instantly with whatever feeling or thought we have but to simply sit and notice. There is no truth or permanence to what is going on, so why get so serious about it.
Affirmation: I live in this now moment with whatever feeling is here, I bless it, thank Spirit for it, and return to Joy and Love.